When Love Walks In

Tell Her You Love Her

2010-02-07T21:47:00.000-08:00

As we all know Valentines day is approaching. When I was in my teens my step-dad would always buy chocolate, flowers, a small teddy bear or a balloon. It was always fun to wake up in the morning and find the little gift he had left for me. The older I get the less I like the holiday. This could be due to the fact that I work at a grocery store. I work in the photo lab and part of the job description is blowing up balloons. Valentines is the biggest day for balloons. I sit there for 8 hours blowing up balloon after balloon, watching boyfriend and husbands buy balloons, flowers and chocolates for their loved ones. For alot of these men it is the only time of year they buy flowers for their significant others (besides maybe anniversaries, and birthdays). So to me v-day seems like a sorry excuse of a holiday. The gifts have no meaning when every other man in America bought his wife a dozen roses. It would seem more meaningful to me if they bought their wife flowers multiple times through out the year for no apparent reason. Even more so I believe that the best way a man can show his love is by saying the words "I love you" or by doing the dishes without being asked. Don't get me wrong...I LOVE flowers and would be thrilled to get them anytime, but Valentines has become so commercialized (along with every other major holiday) that it just seems meaningless. My tip to the gentlemen: Before going home tomorrow drop by the store and buy your wife some flowers (they don't have to be roses). but don't forget to buy her some on Valentines Day as well.
xoxo

...I walk away.

2009-11-09T21:02:00.000-08:00

A friend and I decided to make a late night run to Wal-mart on Friday. It was pretty slow since it was 11:30 at night. It was uneventful until we got to the checkout. There i was paying for my new pjs, just minding my own business. I looked back and behind my friend was the most attractive man i had seen in a long time. I did a double take and noticed he didn't have anything in his hands. I thought to myself, not that i mind but why is he in line if hes not getting anything! I looked over at my friend and gave her a look that clearly said "cute boy behind you." Which, by the way, she understand, and she took a quick peek behind her. He grabbed some gum and put it on the conveyer belt. Mystery solved. but who goes to wal-mart just for a pack of gum at 11:30 at night? Lucky for my friend cute boy started talking to her.The two of them made small talk and joked around a bit. when my friend went to pay for her stuff, he asked if she was sure she didn't want t pay for his gum as well. (Jokingly of course) So they laughed. I stood there thinking "Invite him to our brunch party tomorrow"!!!! I was hoping she would somehow magically read my mind. but alas. she payed for her things and said "have a great night". and let the store. As soon as we were outside, we couldn't help but talk about him. But my question to her was"why in the world did you let him get away???!!!" We got in the car and drove off. I said to my friend, "that guy could have been your soul mate and you just walked away.....she said she was thinking along the same lines. It was love at first sight. We turned the car around and headed back to wal-mart. we drove around for a bit hoping to find him...but we had no luck. Love was standing behind us in line at wal-mart and we let it get away. Case in point.....when you see someone that you think could be your one and only don't just let them walk away, and don't you walk out either. Do something about it so you aren't left wondering what could have been. If you do get to know them and things don't turn out...well that's alright. Another person will come along and you will be given a second chance. Don't be like me. There have been too many instances in my life where I have let a guy get away. Or I have seen a cute, knowing full well i should talk to him, or flirt with him..and instead I just stop and stare...walk away...and then feel like a complete loser.

"You Had me at Hello"

2009-08-07T02:06:00.000-07:00

What do you do when your soul mate you never knew existed walks into the room and you lay eyes on him for the first time? Nothing. This happened to me today. I walked into a building, and there I waited to be helped. A man in his early to mid twenties walked by me and said he would be with me in a moment. My heart did not pitter patter and there were no butterflies. Rather I was pleasantly happy. I waited patiently, anticipating the moment I would be helped by the tall, blue eyed, handsome man. When it was my turn to be helped by the stranger my mind went blank, as often happens when approached by a guy. My mind was racing trying to come up with something witty to say or do, but all I could do is sit there and stare at him, without seeming to obvious. Whether i succeeded in keeping my interest a mystery I do not know. At one moment as he spoke to me with his even temper, and soothing voice I came to a grand realization. He is my soul mate. Period. How do I know this you ask? The answer is I don't know. I couldn't help but smile a little at that moment. As I looked at him I realized that he was exactly the kind of guy that was made for me. As I got up to leave he said "I'll call you." My heart lept a beat until I realized he was referring to giving me a follow up call to make sure I was still a satisfied customer. My heart sank. Of course that's all he meant. I said thank you and walked away. So that morning when I walked into that store it was just another Thursday. Then loved walked into my life. I froze. I saw. I felt the leap in my heart and I walked away, leaving the store on just another Tuesday. How is it that I can find my soul mate and then just walk away? Simple. It happens everyday around the globe. It's that girl you saw at the party who was so pretty you never talked to. The guy in the coffee shop who gives you a little wink, or the mysterious guy who held the door open for you as you walked out of your building in the morning. Each of these people has the potential to be a person you could learn to love. Don't get me wrong, I don't believe in love at first or even that there is one "soul mate" for each person. Only that the opportunities around us are great, just waiting for us to conquer them. This is my new challenge to myself. To overcome the chains that hold me back from flirting with the cute waiter or smiling at a cute guy I pass walking across campus. Don't be afraid to make that small gesture. You never know, you could be smiling at your soul mate. And never forget the famous quote from Jerry Maguire, "You had me at hello."